If you have ADHD, chances are you're already pretty familiar with the concept and importance of self reflection, even if you don't realize it. But for those who aren't, let me tell you why it's so important.

Self-reflection is a skill I've honed over the years, though it often happens "on the fly" for me. My mind is a constant whirlwind of thoughts, considering every possible option. Often, I blurt out those thoughts before really sitting with them. Learning to rein myself in is an ongoing battle, but practicing self-reflection has helped me recognize my flaws and work on them over time.

I've experimented with different self-reflection methods, each with its own pros and cons. Hopefully, I can help you find one that works for you. But don't give up if you don't succeed at first – it's taken me years, and I'm clearly still working on it, or you wouldn't be reading this blog!

Why Self-Reflection Matters (Even More with ADHD)

For those with ADHD, self-reflection can be particularly beneficial. That constant voice in our head that seems to bounce around from topic to topic can be quite helpful in figuring things out if we can utilize it properly.

What Self Reflection Allows

• Increase self-awareness: By reflecting on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and how ADHD affects us.
• Identify triggers and patterns: Self-reflection can help us pinpoint situations or emotions that trigger impulsive behaviors or inattention.
• Develop coping strategies: Once we understand our triggers and patterns, we can develop strategies to manage them effectively.
• Improve decision-making: Taking time to reflect before acting can help us make more thoughtful decisions, rather than acting on impulse.
• Build stronger relationships: Self-awareness allows us to understand how our actions affect others, leading to improved communication and empathy.

Finding Your Self-Reflection Style

There's no one-size-fits-all approach to self-reflection. I've tried a variety of methods, which I will outline below, and I don't believe I have stuck with any one completely. I seem to be finding my own way by combining these efforts into this blog, but even then I still use these other methods often as developing yourself is an ongoing job that will last your entire life. Learn to enjoy building yourself and finding ways to improve, because its truly a blessing to be able to utilize your mind in such a way.

Methods of Self Reflection

• Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide valuable insights and track progress over time. I obviously do this through my blog, but it's definitely not the first time I have attempted such a thing. I've created my own journals from scratched, used pre-planned journals such as Panda Planner or Rocket Book, and even utilized applications designed to keep a private journal. All of these are viable options, so explore what works for you.
• Meditation: Practicing meditation can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. This doesn't mean that you need to sit cross-legged and hum a chant to the universe or anything. With ADHD you'll find that your mind often races, but if you give it time to work through those thoughts then you will learn quite a lot about yourself. Try going for a walk or exercising to sort through those thoughts.
• Talking to a trusted friend or therapist: Verbalizing your thoughts and receiving feedback can offer a different perspective. I view my spouse as my partner in life and share everything with her. She is my best friend and I have no issue with divulging everything to her. I know not everyone is the same, but there are professionals such as therapists or religious figures that can serve this purpose for you. The key here is to find someone you trust and talk things out with them. It's not only helped me with ADHD, but with PTSD from my military service as well.

The point here is to find a method that resonates with you and fits your lifestyle. Experiment with different approaches until you find what works best or combine all of these techniques as I do. I'll break down these different methods in greater detail in more posts, so don't worry and please come back, provide feedback, and most of all enjoy sifting through the stories and information I have to offer. I truly hope this helps someone in the future.

Remember, Don't Give Up!

Self-reflection is a continuous journey, not a destination. It requires time and effort, but the rewards are truly worth it. By committing to self-reflection, you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, improve your relationships, and ultimately live a more fulfilling life.

As I often say in my writing, life is a journey. Learn to savor that journey and see every challenge as an opportunity for growth. Sometimes you have to push through the mundane parts, but life isn't a race. Slow down and find ways to improve yourself along the way.

In my own experience with ADHD, I've learned that inactivity or stagnation can be detrimental. It can send me spiraling downward into a pit of depression that's incredibly difficult to escape. Staying engaged and actively pursuing self-improvement is crucial for my well-being.