Dealing with ADHD as a Family

Author: Travis
Date: October 24, 2024

Living with ADHD can be uniquely challenging for me and my family. Whether we like it or not, we are dealing with ADHD as a family, and it's something we have to face together. I've realized that ADHD affects everyone in our household, whether directly or indirectly.

To navigate these challenges and build a strong family, we need open communication, understanding, and a willingness to work together. I believe that starting a family means building something together, and that requires teamwork. We have to make things work for the betterment of the family we're creating.

Even though we are individuals, we've chosen to build a life together. That means working together, supporting each other, and compromising, or we risk losing each other.

Understanding the Impact of ADHD

If you're the spouse with ADHD, you need to acknowledge that your behaviors and challenges can significantly impact your partner. Your inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and even conflict in your relationship. You must be willing to accept help from your partner and possibly seek professional help should these challenges prove to be too much for either of you. Relationships are a two way street and you must be willing to make changes even if you do not like them. Quite often the most important thing is that you are making the attempt to do better.

If you're the spouse without ADHD, you need to recognize the signs and symptoms of ADHD in your partner. Understanding that these behaviors aren't intentional or malicious will help you foster empathy and patience. It's also important for you to be aware of the potential strain that ADHD can place on your relationship and be prepared to offer support and understanding to your partner. This includes encouraging them to seek professional help and also seeking help for yourself should you feel that it is becoming too much to work through on your own. DO NOT neglect yourself in his endeavor, because the most important part of anyone's life, in my opinion, is to take care of themselves first.

Working Together to Thrive

After over a decade together, with almost a decade of that as a married couple, I've learned that teamwork is the key to overcoming any relationship challenge.

How we Tackle ADHD as a Family

  • Open Communication is Key: We strive to create a safe space for open and honest communication. We talk about everything – challenges, frustrations, and individual needs. Sometimes, we need to remind each other to stay open, but it's crucial to never be afraid to share with your partner.
  • Educate Yourself and Your Partner: We're constantly learning about ADHD. Understanding the condition helps reduce stigma, builds empathy, and empowers us to develop coping strategies. There are many people sharing their experiences, myself included. Listen to their stories, but remember that every family is different. Take inspiration from others and adapt it to what works for you.
  • Support Each Other Unconditionally: We offer unwavering support to each other, regardless of who has ADHD. This might mean helping with organization, time management, or emotional regulation. It could also be as simple as doing the dishes, laundry, or other chores. If you have ADHD, you probably know when you've been slacking. A simple act of kindness, like washing your partner's car or doing the dishes, can go a long way in showing you're making an effort. And there's no need to brag about it – we do things for our loved ones out of love, not for recognition.
  • Seek Professional Help When Needed: We've explored professional guidance from therapists specializing in ADHD. Sometimes it doesn't work out, and the professional isn't the right fit. That doesn't mean giving up; it means finding someone else. Therapists can offer valuable tools and strategies, but they can also be disheartening if their suggestions aren't helpful. Remember that it's a journey, and finding the perfect solution takes time. Personally, I appreciate the benefits of medication, but I'm cautious about viewing it as a permanent fix. It's another tool in the toolbox, not a magic cure-all. Everyone is different, and medication might be necessary for some. Don't discount the potential benefits of professional help.
  • Prioritize Self-Care: Everyone in the family needs to prioritize self-care. Encourage healthy habits like exercise, proper sleep, routine building, and stress management techniques. These are foundational to mental health for everyone, not just those with ADHD. I'd argue they're even more critical for someone with ADHD, as they help regulate ADHD's effects. Being overweight, tired, lacking routine, and bottling up stress will only exacerbate the challenges.

Building a Stronger Family Unit

Dealing with ADHD as a family has its challenges, but it's also a chance to strengthen our bond and grow together. By focusing on understanding, communication, and support, we can create a loving environment where everyone feels understood and valued.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: life is a journey, and navigating its challenges is the real test. If you're like me and enjoy video games, managing your life like a game can be an effective strategy. In fact, I'll soon share a post about a to-do list app I use and how I relate it to "leveling up" in my own life, just like in a video game.

Remember, ADHD isn't a life sentence. With the right tools and strategies, families can learn to manage the challenges and build fulfilling lives together. Ultimately, that's the goal, isn't it? We want to build a life together and progress towards bigger and better things. The blessing in ADHD is that "enough" is never enough. Use that motivation to push yourself and your family towards greater successes in life.

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